SG Fairy

Isn't it really pathetic to be all excited when you get a comment from a stranger about your blog???

Sigh...

Anyway, being the bitch that I usually am, I just couldn't resist replying to this comment from someone called Holkram about my 'nature vs nurture' post.

Holkram is, I think, a Singaporean boy (coz his blog is http://lostsingaporeboy.blogspot.com mah!) who is now in the US (coz hor, it says so in his blog!).

I wonder if you, Holkram, have been able to access the Today article which had inspired me to write that particular post....

Ok, let's just say that indeed, men are, literally, dick-heads, since you used the term 'scientific evidence' on me... this ignorant arts graduate here not very scientific lah!

You know, animals also have this natural instinct to want multiple partners and spread their seeds.

But what makes us, humans, different from animals is that we have this thing called control... The ability to decide not to shit wherever we want to just coz we have a tummy-ache but to instead hold it in til we get to a toilet, for example.

What made me pissed off with the writer (not you, Holkram, but the Today writer) is that he was using nature to justify men cheating on their wives.

If men really had no control over their natural tendancies, then we would either (a) have a hell lot of prisons full of rapists, or (b) rape would not be considered a crime.

What that writer was saying was simply, tough luck ladies, your men are all naturally fucking animals so you'll just have to live with the fact that they will all fuck around and cheat on you.

Are you also saying, Holkram, that men can cheat on their wives coz it is a natural thing???

If that is the case, then I suppose all those married men out there who haven't cheated on their wives are unnatural men.

Whatever nature bestows on you... you can still make choices.

Nature can make you type (a)... but you can choose whether you wanna be type (a).

Perhaps you do have the urges... so maybe you go surf porn sites and wank off to them... there are ways to take care of your natural tendancies... but you can still choose not to go out, find a girl, and fuck her.

I have no problems with married couples who get a little excitment on the side outside of marriage. What I cannot stand are married men who justify themselves sleeping with other women by saying, "I cannot control my dick". They are trying to shrink from their responsibilities... because they did make the conscious decision to go screw another women. If you decide to fuck outside of marriage, then just simply say "I decided I wanna fuck outside of my marriage". Don't come and give me crap about how, "I could not control my dick lah!" They actually have a name for things like that, it is called sex addiction and can be treated in psycho hospitals.

I have nothing against cohabitation...

But I do not like men who say that oh, we should all cohabit to allow us men, with no control over our dicks, to fuck around.
So women who wanna marry, cannot marry coz, as usual, we have to make way for the men and accomodate their natural tendancies???
The reason given by that writer, for cohabitation, was totally wrong.

So you see Holkram, I believe that the decision to cheat is a conscious one. People who sleep around outside of marriage, made that conscious decision. People who sleep only with their wives, made that conscious decision to control that natural tendency to fuck around. That natural tendency is controllable... that is why we are humans, not animals.

Hence, it is 100% a matter of choice.

Of course you can choose to disagree with me... people who discuss opposing opinions implicitly make the decision that they will agree to disagree. I just wanted you to have a clearer understanding of where I am coming around...